Pretty Pity!

How is it like when you are rejected? Or to be precise rejected without even being known completely? The people who are dating on regular basis they know it isn’t tough job. But for a girl like me who hardly date man out there, it really is a big hit on your face!  So, I dated this man in January who was fair, cute, and humorous and with an average Indian height of 5”8’. He was a complete chaos. His every singly line carried meanings within meanings. He said he was Indian by heart and westernized from outside. He was complete diplomatic and dominating man with charm inherited. He knew every single trick to attract girl. So there’s no doubt that I too got attracted. I believe I had my best date ever with him though it was for meager 2 hours yet it was complete. It had excitement, emotion, competition, arguments, Starbucks and his smoke. We just met for once and there wasn’t anything wrong excluding the part that I couldn’t speak much since I was nervous. I could see that “Complimenting couples” look on the face of people who were glaring us. Yet we never met again. And that first date became last. And I would say thankfully it ended because it’s really hard to date chaotic man who does not know what they want from their life. I believe some of us are just dating for a fact of increasing our social circle but not to find a real love. Though dating is meant to be fun without tag. Yet!

Are we also ditching people just with one meeting? Does “Everything should be perfect” have become our major motive rather than “hey! Let’s try it again”? Or what if we are doing it deliberately in order to gain opposite sex follower? The point isn’t ending the relationship in first date. The point is rather ending it in a good way. Relationship and dating have or rather must have one thing in common- a good ending.  It's important to have your next face-off generous rather than humiliating.  You should never let the other person remain in flabbergasted situation where he doesn’t know what’s his coming future be like. There are situations when you are confused with person’s good looks and his act of mannerism. You contour yourself with good looks but deep inside you know his act of mannerism can shame you publically. In that case you must be clear what bothers you most. When you are done deciding then take the pitch and bowl it. And in a very “decent and polite” manner, confront the person “This isn’t going to work like this! We need to find a way out/ let’s end it up”. The moment you end the person without saying anything that end automatically turns into a “bad ditch”. This can ruin your every next meeting to that person. Reminder- World is circular. You can smash with the same person innumerable times.

So always try to mould things in your favor even when you have to adorn them in tangled words_ “You were good… I guess it’s me! “. Unlike my Mr. Chaos who didn’t have either the words or that perfect gentle class!